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   BirdsNest posted on Faith  Latest scan shows spots on the liver that weren't there a month ago. We meet with palliative care tomorrow in Hagar's room. There are no words for how awful I feel.
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   HopeandGlory  Sending healing thoughts and prayers for you and Hagar Birdie . . . God be with you both.
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   MeiDei  Oh, Bird - take courage our thoughts and prayers are for you both.
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   BirdsNest posted on Gardening & Landscaping  The garden continues to be the place I can go to for escape from the harshness of everyday life. This garden is full of beauty and dotted with disappointment. Not everything is doing as well as I had wished. The squash bugs discovered the zucchini and in days had damaged every plant, now they have moved on to the other squash plants. Eggplants are being consumed by some other vile bug, tomorrow evening I will mix up some Neem oil with water and add a bit of detergent to spray onto the plants. Waiting until later in the day when bees are not so active. I am harvesting some lovely eggplant but the leaves are being consumed by pests. Pepper plants are under performing in a big way. Last year this time we had harvested buckets and buckets of peppers, so far this year only a few small ones. I picked tomatillos and took to the tracks to sell. They did quite well, I even made some tomatillo salsa verde to offer as samples with tortilla chips. I did not like the salsa. I think it is an acquired taste. One of the other sellers tasted it and loved it, so I sent it home with her. I was going to add it to the compost pile.
July 18 at 23:16 EST .

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   Surfhut  Hope the Neem oil spray will save some of your plants. God bless you, Bird!
July 19 at 08:11 EST .

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   BirdsNest posted on Health & Diet  Hagar is still in the hospital and will be for some time. Pressure sores are healing, slowly and still have a long way to go. He has been refusing to eat the food. For today though, someone has sat with him while he eats. I don't know if he is being fed or if they are there to watch him eat and encourage him along. It's kind of hard to get answers from someone who is medicated much of the time. He told me on the phone he had eaten "lots" today. I thought that was the medication talking, but he has had help with eating. He has lost a lot of weight, not a bad thing but he needs food to rebuild his muscles. He has been in bed for 48 days. I saw him Friday, he was not himself and quite a bit of a grump. He couldn't wait for us to leave. When I talked to him Sat he was in a mood also. Much better today though.
July 12 at 21:04 EST .

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   NotaBene  BirdsNest so nice to hear from you. Hope Hagar gets better soon. He needs to eat to recover his strength.

Praying for his recovery.
July 13 at 00:32 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Thank you NotaBene. For the prayers and for recognizing that he needs food to nourish his body to regain strength. He needs to be able to get out of bed and walk before he can move on to the next facility. Rehab is next-as long as they don't call it a nursing home he will be alright. I am hoping they will see fit to place him in the best facility, hoping that place is here on the shore. I have a friend whose husband is in the one I don't want, the poor man has fallen numerous times and is in bad shape from neglect I should think. He went in because of a fall at home but is not showing much improvement.
July 13 at 06:39 EST .

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   MeiDei  Pain meds curb the appetite - ironic, yes? More than one open wound depletes the body of protein & gaining weight becomes a chore. Will he take a milk shake? Do they exercise his body, i.e., legs & arms to avoid atrophy? You're both in our constant prayers; nice to see you back posting.
July 13 at 12:10 EST .

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   Balogreene  I don't have any advice, altho we went through it with both my mother and her mother. Mom was younger, but sicker, but, after 3 or 4 months, made it home. Grandma just didn't make it. She was 95, and decided to die. With both, we tried to be there every day. With Grandma, I brought her special treats to try to get her to eat, she ate those, but nothing else.

I didn't know what to do. You have to be there a lot, to guide their care, but, you have to live your life, so the rent/mortgage gets paid, the insurance, all that stuff. It's hard. Prayers and blessings to both of you.
July 13 at 23:29 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Yes, it's not like I can be at the hospital everyday and let the garden wait on me. This garden is waiting on no one! I am at a breakneck speed all day getting things done that have to get done. No waiting until tomorrow. Several folks have said I can take you on Monday. I have to wait to see what the garden is doing before I can jump in the car and leave for the day. Leaving for the day is a planned event and lots of thing have to be done just before I can go. So many last minutes things....checking the young ducks, will they have sufficient water to last during my absence, same for baby chicks, is the fish pond pump working properly and will it need to be cleaned before I go, will it storm while I am gone so I have to unplug the pump. Too many last minuted details. Then as I am ready to leave I realize I have left my coffee cup and water and wallet in the house. Everyone goes through these in their own way. Some days I get mine all right and the day is a good one.
July 14 at 07:28 EST .

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   MeiDei  The day will come Bird when you will look back & marvel at all you got done & how well you did. Some days you have enough to fill your plate, some days a platter - some days a serving cart! : )
July 14 at 14:50 EST .

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   Bettijo  My thoughts and prayers are with you, Bird. I cannot imagine how hard this is on you with your daily responsibilities and his being so far away that visits must be planned. Years ago my mother had to spend time in hospitals and nursing homes and the food was terrible in both places. So I would take her meals and snacks to try to get her to eat. I don't know how they expect patients to recover if the food is unpalatable! I had hip replacement surgery last year then went into a nursing home for 3-4 weeks because I live alone. Fortunately, in both places the food was good. So hopefully things have improved overall in the healthcare industry kitchens. The nursing home I was in was much nicer than the ones my mother was subjected to years ago. Anyway, God bless you and Hagar and give you both strength and courage along with healing.
July 18 at 21:54 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Thank you Bettijo. I am going to need both strength and courage. I saw the wounds yesterday, I needed to know what he is dealing with. I must say they are the most frightening things I have ever seen. I cannot imagine how long it will take for those to heal properly. I must admit, I am scared for him. Seriously.
July 18 at 23:06 EST .

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   Surfhut  You and Hagar are in my prayers. Strength, courage, wisdom are yours. The prayer for strength, courage, wisdom also being asked for Hagar's medical staff.
July 19 at 08:15 EST .

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   BirdsNest posted on Gardening & Landscaping  We had an inch of rain yesterday so I spent part of today pulling weeds so I can get some more green beans planted. My friend cannot come til the weekend to till and I need these beans in the ground asap. There will be plenty for her to do anyway.
Picked 2-1/2 buckets of cucumbers on Wednesday and took them to the local church for their monthly Food Pantry night. Also gifted them with plenty of squash. Friday I picked 3 buckets of cukes, about 10 eggplant(Rosa Bianca and Shooting Stars ),and a bucket of squash to take to the tracks on Sat. I had been to see Hagar earlier in the day and was happy to get home early enough to get the picking done in daylight instead of in the dark with a flashlight on Sat morning. Good thing,too. Sat at around 6am it started raining. I went to the tracks anyway, a little bit of rain won't turn me away. I sat with another fool til about 7 when her husband showed up, I went back to the van and waited for the rain to stop. It would rain softly, then a downpour, then it would stop. Around 7:30 the other fool said goodbye, they were going home. I set up my table and my veggies and eggs and waited for customers. First customers bought eggplant, squash and a bucket of cucumbers. Yay!!!! And 3 dz eggs. Then customers came in spurts. It never really rained any more, just a few spits, but it was overcast and cool. Perfect for being outside. A lady I gave a bunch of plants to last week stopped by and bought a few eggplant. She pressed a bill into my hand and said "That's for you. God told me you needed this right now." I was gobsmacked. I thanked her and hugged her. Now I can buy the 2 tires for the van. One more big thing off the list. I am not destitute but I am on a strict budget. That just made life a bit brighter.
July 12 at 20:58 EST .

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   HopeandGlory  Prayers are answered . . . Birdie's posting again . . . God be with and Hagar.
July 12 at 22:00 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Prayers answered indeed, Hope. On many levels. I will try to post more often, I have just been very focused on the garden. Last week the heat tried to take me out.
July 13 at 06:33 EST .

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   MeiDei  News flash: Bird Beats Heat! So glad for the good news - see, you did a kind and generous thing and it WAS multiplied back to you - PTL! Tell us about any other "blessings in disguise" that come your way again. Love your posts & your produce - maybe the Good Lord will direct my path to a local grower.
July 13 at 11:57 EST .

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   Balogreene  You're right, the heat and humidity last week were killer! And, I didn't work outside.
July 13 at 23:23 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I couldn't grasp why last week was so tough on me. Previously we had had higher temps, the day it got to feeling like 107F and by 5pm felt like 111F. I worked outside all day in the garden until about 4pm, I was cooked but nowhere near as toasted as last week. I got overheated Sunday,Monday and Tuesday until I felt I couldn't do anymore work outside. It was an exhausting week, my clothes getting soaked everyday all day long. I relented and turned on the A/C in the bedroom, on low just to remove the dampness. It made sleeping better.
July 14 at 07:14 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Oh yeah, I got the flat beans planted yesterday. 3 short rows, but they are in!! I was hoping for a good soaking rain, but we only got a shower. Also picked 10 pounds of flat beans, will be calling customers today to come get their produce. Cucumbers need to be picked and I need to check on eggplant. Zucchini plants are done, time to pull them up. I think I saw the guineas actually EATING insects from the zucc plants. I only thought they were interested in poking holes in my watermelons. And they were working the bean rows too. Maybe leaving them out was good. They DO eat ticks and will chase away snakes. They missed the one snake that gobbled up 5 fertile duck eggs though, the hen is still sitting on the one remaining egg. The snake is eradicated.
July 14 at 07:20 EST .

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   BirdsNest posted on Dogs, Cats & Critters  Something fun...9 baby Silkie chicks. Six at one time then 2 days later two, then one fussy little fur ball. Their feathers look like fur, especially as babies. I captured one of the hens that had been setting and she got to be the "Mama". The other chicks that hatched are much bigger, I grabbed their mamas and put them back with the flock, at night of course. I secretly think they were glad to be relieved of their duty.Maybe that will help with the consumption of the special diet given to the little ones. Anyway, they make me smile.
July 12 at 20:44 EST .

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   Gerty  And your post made ME smile! Thank you, Miss Birdie.
July 13 at 21:19 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Silkies ALWAYS make me smile and I am glad I didn't sell them all last Fall at the swap. I had intended to get rid of all of the chickens. The Universe decided I needed 12 big chickens(gift from a friend ) and the small group of Silkies I had decided to keep. It was also very sweet to see the 3 former mama hens back in the yard with the other Silkies. Now when I throw garden scraps in their pen there are more eager takers.
July 14 at 07:10 EST .

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   BirdsNest posted on Gardening & Landscaping  Our cucumber patch is producing like mad. I have sold cukes, given them away, and fed the chickens till they can't eat any more. The last bucket got chopped up and tossed on the compost pile. Today I sold some, gave away more than I sold at the tracks, had some left over and went to Food Lion and walked the lot with my box of cucumbers giving them to anyone who would accept them. I have become a crazy lady.
June 27 at 19:15 EST .

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   MeiDei  May your efforts & generosity be multiplied back to you ten-fold!
June 29 at 07:26 EST .

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   Balogreene  Mei Dei is right, your generosity will be multiplied back to you ten-fold, but, as a dear friend once told me, it might be in the next life (sorry ). I wish I'd been there, Cucumbers are a favorite, kimchi, soup, with onion salad, with tomato salad, plain, who knows I eat a ton of them!
July 3 at 19:02 EST .

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   BirdsNest posted on Health & Diet  Today is day 25.

Hagar had another surgery on the pressure sores. That was on Tuesday. I got to see him Wednesday, he looked quite good considering what he had been through the previous day. We got kicked out of his room soon after we arrived, the wound care nurse came in with 2 student nurses to change the dressing on the sores and evaluate. She said she might recommend some other type of treatment. I asked if it was the V.A.C. system and she looked at me. You know about that? I said that I had been doing some asking around and someone had explained much of it to me(Thank you MeiDei )
. We were out of the room for 45 min A friend stopped by on his was back to the Shore and stopped in to see Hagar,he was having his Respiratory treatment and couldn't talk but the friend said a few words and off he went. We stayed awhile longer. Hagar had his pain meds so he was off to sleep. Yesterday in the garden, the phone rang. It was Hagar, "I have had a good day", he said. I sat down on a cinderblock and listened to him tell me about his good day. A nurse brought him a cooked to order cheeseburger. He ate every bite and declared it the best thing he has ever eaten. It had flavor and he could taste it. He chatted on for 30 minutes. When I go on Sunday I will take him a slice of pizza from the cafeteria and anything else he should want. He is on a diabetic diet, so everything is beyond bland. He was not diabetic going into the hospital, it is due to the meds.
The plan is to get him out of the hospital into a rehab center. But they will not be putting him here, he needs more skilled care than what he can get here. Our friend's husband is in one of them here, he has fallen 4 times there. It is a dismal atmosphere, I went in it once late winter to visit a friend who had been transferred from the hospital across the street. He died that morning. I could not believe the look of the place, it was awful. No way Hagar is going into that one!
June 19 at 06:30 EST .

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   Balogreene  You fight Bird! On 9/11 my grandmother was put in a Nursing Home, as the hospital made room for all the people from the Pentagon who would need a room! Her doctor told us it was not a good home, we did not like it, but, because of the attack, there was no room, anywhere (we tried ).

You and Hagar fight for his rights. When mom was in rehab we had to fight every day for her rights. Can we set up a rotating schedule, where all friends within a few hundred miles come down one day a week and fights for Hagar (food, exercise, sleep, care, etc. )?

Whatever you need, let us know, the least we can do is pray.
June 19 at 19:41 EST .

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   MeiDei  Here's to more "cooked to order cheeseburgers" & the start of an invigorated appetite ... what good news.
June 20 at 07:36 EST .

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   NotaBene  So wonderful you received a phone call from Hagar. That was very good news, and that he is tasting his food, it means he is getting better.

Blessings to you both.
June 20 at 13:01 EST .

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   BirdsNest posted on Health & Diet  Day 18 Yesterday they did surgery on the pressure sore on his butt. It was a deep cavity, infected but the surgeon is confident they will be able to keep the area clean and it will start to heal. I sure hope so. I would have been at the hospital but no one informed me of the procedure. If they had been able to get Hagar to sign the consent form I feel sure I would not have known anything until I saw him again. He seems to have found a bit of an appetite, which is good. A friend stopped by today and brought him a container of ice cream. I am sure she is now on his list of favorite people. She called to tell me, and she offered to take me on Wed to see him. That was nice.
June 13 at 21:15 EST .

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   MeiDei  Thank you for keeping us informed. My son feels so badly for Hagar, he knows what it's like & they take a while to heal if immobile, faster if he can get up and move around. Guessing that the surgical procedure was a 'debridement' & he's either on a Dakins wet to dry protocol or a V.A.C. system now. Both work well & are interchangeable; our combined thoughts & prayers for Hagar (& you too ). Don't get discouraged, your angels are moving to the infield to meet you at home plate.
June 14 at 09:13 EST .

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   MeiDei  BTW - "faster" doesn't mean chasing the pretty nurses down the hallways : ) An hour a day up is usually what is allowed with additional time added gradually. Hopefully more nice people will escort you to the hospital.
June 14 at 09:20 EST .

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   NotaBene  BirdsNest, this has been a long journey for you and Hagar. So nice of your friend to drive you to see him. I pray to God that he keeps getting better, that he will recover and you will be together again. It takes time but hopefully things will improve. Love MeiDei's comment of chasing the pretty nurses down the hallway... So nice you keep us informed. All the best!!
June 15 at 01:46 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Mei and NotaBene, I would be thrilled if the nurses informed me he was chasing them. So far he has not been out of bed since he was admitted...May 26. I wanted to talk to him last night, but the phone was busy. Our friend M called him, M did all the talking and when I tried to call-busy. Tried calling the nurses station 3x, no answer. I finally called at 5:30 this morning. His nurse said he slept through most of her shift, he tolerated dressing change well and there wasn't much else to report. I asked about the progress on the sore and she said she heard the doctor mention wanting to debride it some more. That doesn't sound like progress to me. The nurses don't give out much information at all. Surely one of them knew he was due for surgery on Friday, he would have had to have been taken off of Cumadin several days before yet no one told me. So Friday when pre op called for permission to do surgery(Hagar was confused )I lit into the nurse. Of course I would have been there if I had known.

I am getting more concerned about his mental health, he needs people that he knows around and I just cannot get there every day. They want to re hab him in Norfolk not here. I am calling the lady in charge of that to find out more details.

This is an acute care hospital. The nurses for the most part are efficient and pleasant. What I can't understand is why the doctors cannot keep me updated without me having to call or have nurses make the request to call me.

Thanks to everyone that is praying for Hagar.
June 15 at 06:29 EST .

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   MeiDei  Bird I just had a rather long post denied for some reason. It was meant to alleviate your fears - wish I had copied it before hitting comment. We're on wounds #5 & 6 (not exactly old hat ) I can identify with any current fear, doubt or discontent. You can email me at MeiDei@comcast.net & I'd be happy to recreate what I was trying to say to add peace to your hectic days. Today's opening prayers for you both have been offered.
June 15 at 08:37 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Mei, I sent you an email.
June 16 at 20:16 EST .

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   Bettijo  Bird, my prayers are with you and Hagar. After my hip replacement March a Year ago, I went into a nursing home for rehab and PT because I live alone and was afraid to go solo just yet. The social worker had trouble finding a nursing home who had room for me. She finally found one at LifeCare (I think that is a national chain ). It turned to be very nice, as nursing homes go. I hope you can find a suitable place for Hagar.
June 27 at 21:18 EST .

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   BirdsNest posted on Gardening & Landscaping  I had string beans, zucchini, and cucumbers to sell at the tracks today along with all of the plants. Surprisingly the zucchini sold out first. Brought some cucumbers home and gave away the last pound of beans. Traded them actually for some large plastic pots. Not a big crowd today, maybe because it got hot early this morning and kept getting hotter. I know I was close to melting. We have had 3 straight days of high heat and it has really worked me to a frazzle.
June 13 at 21:03 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Sunday I loaded the van with plants and had just picked a 5 gallon bucket of beans and cucumbers along with some zucchini and patty pan squash. Only one car stopped and he was a friend, he bought $3 worth of cucumbers. I stayed 2 hrs. In town a friend saw me and bought $4 worth of cucumbers and zucchini. On the way home I stopped at the established farm stand and asked if she would like to buy the beans and cukes. She hemmed and hawed and relented to buy just the beans. It was a fraction of their worth but I have no place to hold them so they would be saleable. I piled some cukes on the table and told them they could have them for themselves. She stopped me and bought the remaining cukes-again a fraction of the cost but I was not interested in trying to hold them another day in this heat. I am not ready to start canning, I could have made them into bread and butter pickles, but I have no help. At least maybe someone could enjoy them. It was disappointing but sometimes you just have to learn to live with disappointment.
June 15 at 06:42 EST .

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   Balogreene  Bird, here you go, one of my favorite ways to eat cucumber:
Chilled Cucumber Yogurt Soup with Pepperoncini
Ingredients
1 pound cucumbers—peeled, seeded and coarsely chopped, plus cucumber spears for serving
10 small pepperoncini—4 stemmed, seeded and chopped, plus ¼ cup of liquid from the jar
¼ cup plus 2 tablespoons chopped dill
1 cup plain whole-milk yogurt
1 cup buttermilk
¼ teaspoon ground cumin
Salt

Directions



In a blender, puree the chopped cucumbers with the chopped pepperoncini, the pickling liquid, 2 tablespoons of the dill, the yogurt and buttermilk until very smooth. Stir in the cumin and the remaining dill and season with salt. Refrigerate until chilled, about 30 minutes.

Ladle the soup into 6 bowls. Serve each bowl with a whole pepperoncini and cucumber spears on the side.

I don't use the dill.
June 15 at 21:25 EST .

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   BirdsNest posted on Gardening & Landscaping  Ah Summer, picked 4 cucumbers. One I took to Hagar, he ate a small slice, said it tasted of summer. He is right.
Picked Swiss Chard and gave it to a friend for her sister. The older tougher leaves I set aside for the chickens. They mowed them down. I will be picking more cucumbers, Swiss chard, and zucchini.
June 10 at 23:50 EST .

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