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Pet Peeves

   Straitpath  Commercials that have a phone or doorbell ringing in the background which cause you to ask, "is that the doorbell?"
Yesterday at 22:29 EST .

   Gram77  Big time pet peeve. As soon as November rolls around my phone goes nuts with a gazillion calls from every place known to man asking for money. Thank goodness every call pops up in the top left corner of my TV screen. That's the only good thing about all this and it prevents me from getting up and answering the phone. I'm not a scrooge and the Salvation Army is where I choose to help.
November 4 at 09:04 EST .

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   Balogreene  Nurses.
When I was in the hospital I'd ring for a bedpan and when the nurse came over an hour later, she would yell at me for wetting the bed! (That was embarrassing, I haven't wet the bed since I was 2 or 3 ).

Monday, my sister went through PT, then called to get hooked back up to her IV's. Whoever answered the page, didn't ask what was going on, just clicked the call off. A little later she called again, they said they'd send someone. When I left an hour later, no one had come.

Today, we tried to check my sister out of the hospital. Starting at noon her nurse said she was paging the doctor to discharge her. I said we had a few issues: 1. I had to be home by 2:30, mom cannot be left home alone for more than 4 hours, she has a tendency to fall; 2. I recently had a bypass operation and was in pain. They insisted they were paging the Dr. The Dr. came in at 2:45, said the first page came in at 2:10.

At 1:00 the nurse's aid came in and asked how we were, I said pretty awful, Sis hadn't gotten lunch. Her response was "Her phone is off the hook, they couldn't get ahold of her". I said they came up with her roommate's lunch, and could have asked her, they could have called the nurses, the nurses and aides should have known if someone got their meals. When I told the charge nurse she hadn't gotten lunch, her "nurse" said she'd seen them bring my sister a turkey sandwich. I explained it only came because I complained, and it was two pieces of white bread with one piece of turkey. No butter, no mayonaise, no nothing, dry bread and turkey.

The charge nurse, and the nurse were both liars and cheats, I saw the nurse come into the doorway and sign off that she had seen the patient, then turn around and leave, without talking to my sister. The charge nurse swore she talked to the Dr, who had never heard from her.

Finally, they said they were checking her out, I was so hot my hair was dripping, and so I went outside. 40 minutes later she came out. She said they couldn't get a wheelchair. I just laughed, when I went downstairs there were 2 wheelchairs by the nurses station.

The things that get me: 1 ) they lied a lot; 2 ) patients are not humans; 3 ) everyone must wait for them; 4 ) if I did my job as well as they do theirs, I would have been fired a LONG time ago.
October 29 at 01:50 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  I am not surprised. 1973 VA Batavia when DH was in I was accosted by the mail carrier, when I was in the women's barracks. Through to 2004 in a Fl hospital, I was denied food for 21 hours, finally had to just get dressed, sit on the curb for my SIL to pick me up,left myself out.
ON the other side! when DH was admitted for his knee surgery, Christmas eve, he was sent to a 7th Day Adventist Hosp that was outstanding, great care, great food, absolutely sanitary, best care possible, and no grumbling by staff.
October 29 at 15:14 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  I could write a book here, but until these cataracts are removed, I have a hard time. I can't drive or write. But I wanted to say don't even think about long waits until you spend time in a VA facility, an all day effort. Thank G_d we have private insurance, but certain things still require VA. Yes Balo , me too, a bad rig would have killed someone. sigh, glad I am retired.
October 29 at 15:31 EST .

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   Linder  For the most part I've had only good nursing experiences and it may just be the difference in small town and big city. Guess you could compare it to big government and small government and we believe small gov results are better. I've known most of my nurses. The most beloved nurse in this community died yesterday and it's heartening to read the personal memories on the local internet obit page. She was a very poor Mexican girl who managed to get an education and ended up here in the Midwest because of a nurse shortage in the 40's. She was a little bit of a woman who ran a tight ship and we all have funny stories of being a bit fearful of her...along with stories of her compassion and encouragement. She was also a dedicated Republican.
October 31 at 19:07 EST .

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   BirdsNest  No matter how good the doctors are at their craft, the nurses have to be able to hold up their end of the task. Hagar had terrible care at Va Beach General, they allowed him to lie in bed on soiled sheets for hours and did not turn him as they should have. The results of that were the pressure sores. Because of the pressure sores, he cannot get chemo for the cancer. Transfer to Norfolk General Hospital for Extended Recovery. Some dark days there, almost losing him twice. I truly believe that once I began coming more often, the nurses saw that he had someone who loved and cherished him and they began to take more care with how they treated him. I never asked for anything out of the ordinary, stayed with him all day while there and thanked each of them for their commitment to their jobs. Nurses are the key. No matter how great the surgeon, if the follow up care is lax, then the patient suffers.
October 31 at 20:17 EST .

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   Balogreene  Bird, I agree, if you don't show up every day, most of the day, staff thinks no one cares, so they don't have to. It happened to my grandmother. My sister and I both worked long hours, and mom was not driving much, thus, we were not there enough for staff to worry about.

Years later I found out my Grandmother, a friend's father, and another friend's mother died in the same Nursing Home, within the year. Scary isn't it. We all went every day, but had jobs, so weren't there 24-hrs a day.
November 1 at 00:55 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  Did this happen in a VA hospital, Balo?

I'm sorry for your and your sister's bad experience.

I have a friend in Richmond [where I lived for 30 years], who had to stay right on top of the nursing staff when her mother/father, m-i-l or f-i-l was ever hospitalized. Not VA hospitals, so I don't know how you would deal with that kind of treatment, but my friend was known at Chippenham and St. Marys for being one of those Witches on Wheels. She just flat did not put up with any kind of neglect or mistreatment. She wasn't unreasonable by any means, but she would only take so much from a lax nursing staff before she was eyeball to eyeball with the hospital administrator. She would go straight to the top with a serious complaint --one being a nurse-trainee from a foreign country who could neither speak English nor understand it. Talk about a dangerous situation!

I think most of us do not know how to stand up for ourselves as a patient in a hospital setting. If wouldn't know how to if I hadn't had years of training by watching my friend stand up for her parents and in laws.
November 1 at 12:33 EST .

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   Gram77  My hubby was rushed to Sarasota Memorial in Sarasota, FL with a heart attach. His doctor did all the proper things in ER and in the end it was decided he would need a stent. Pre-surgery his care was the greatest. Once in recovery which requires an overnight stay the care totally disappeared. I needed help twice, went to the nurses' station, found no one, and pressing the call bell produced nothing. I know very little about nursing but I learned in a hurry. About a week after returning home we received a form to fill out about our experience. Believe me the returned report held no punches.
November 2 at 10:15 EST .

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   Balogreene  FlatCityGirl, my first response was, Yes, it was a Virginia Hospital. But, no, it was not a VA hospital. Fairfax VA is supposed to be one of the top Heart Hospitals in the US. I admit, you get great doctors, great cures, but, in three visits, you get HORRIBLE nurses,
November 9 at 21:57 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  LOLOL at myself, Balo.

Since the Veteran’s Administration disaster has been in the news so much in the last year, when I see VA, I don’t think Virginia.
November 11 at 08:39 EST .

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   Iacta alea est  Balo,
last August I was hospitalized for 4 days. I got almost claustrophobic. Has to get out. I was told the doctor had signed the realease and I could leave once the nurses disconneted my IV. I waited over an hour. The I just gently removed the IV (seen it done before ) put a sterile dressing on it and split on my own. Couldn't wait another second
November 17 at 16:40 EST .

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   Iacta alea est  Back in the '70's Richard Pryor did a bit where he said (paraphrasing ) "Someday we're gonna see ads for toilet paper on TV where one guy says "Look how much 'sheeite' my toilet paper got off of my a** compared to Brand X"....that day has pretty much arrived Richard.
October 25 at 00:51 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  Site Nannies.

I just got scolded by one because I expressed an opinion that didn't agree with the Site Nanny.

Here's what I said [in regard to the article about the State Dinner given by the Queen for the Chi Coms:

No one does --or ever has, done the Pomp and Ceremony as well as the Brits.

Kate is such an improvement over Diana. I never liked her or had any sympathy for her, although I suppose most of it really wasn't her fault. She just got trapped into a very bad situation with a Horse's Hind-Parts [Charles] and a Wicked, Wicked Harlot [Camilla] and it all went to Hades.

Here's what she said:

Remember that Diana was only 18 or so when she was selected to mother the heir(s ).

She gave birth to and carefully raised two lovely sons. And they adore her. The least we can do is be civil about their mother.

Can someone tell me please, how was I uncivil about "their mother"?

Responding to the Site Nanny's post with BITE ME would be uncivil.
October 20 at 21:55 EST .

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   Balogreene  FlatCityGirl, I agree with you mostly. Diana was very young, but I heard she had a crush on Charles from a very young age (he was more attractive back then ). They were both pushed into an untenable situation, if the Queen had let Charles marry Camilla in the first place, none of this would have happened.

That said, neither Charles nor Camilla had any right to behave as they did. And Diana did do a good job with her sons, for as long as she had them. I have to think a lot of their character comes from the people who got them through the teenage years.

You were not uncivil about their mother she was trapped, by her youth and her family's ambition. You were uncivil about Charles and Camilla who behaved abominably.

Sorry you got trolled.
October 21 at 18:22 EST .

  5 people like this.

   Balogreene  How about sexual aid ads in the middle of the day? Now that I've been home sick, I see a lot of really tasteless ads on in the middle of the day. The TP ads Surf talked about below is only my second worst, the sexual aid ads in the middle of the afternoon take precedence. Both are way horrible.
October 2 at 17:54 EST .

   12 people like this.

   Gram77  There is a new one strictly for women and that one I also find way too personal. Who approves there ads?
October 6 at 09:28 EST .

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   Balogreene  People who eat the fruit in the produce aisle. Tonight I followed a very dirty hispanic, probably construction worker, into Giant. He went straight to the Grapes, and grabbed a huge handful. I said, "You are a thief, that is theft". He smiled and nodded. I don't think he spoke English. I should have picked up the bag and taken it to customer service. He had absolutely filthy hands, and someone was going to be shorted some poundage, but, I thought of that much later.
October 1 at 19:15 EST .

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   MeiDei  Have seen that with more than just grapes, apples, peaches, etc. How about seeing the mother give the child a box of cookies to eat while she shopped and finding the empty box several aisles later! Must add, I did see a mother put a 1/2 used box of cookies on the counter to be rung up - so there are decent people who do it right.
October 2 at 11:05 EST .

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   Balogreene  I usually shop with a wand that adds my groceries to my virtual cart. So, if this diabetic starts feeling low on sugar, I scan a package, open it, and eat it. Of course, these wands let me scan and bag all items. When I reach the checkout line, I scan a barcode, my purchases are registered, I pay, and leave.
October 2 at 17:48 EST .

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   Surfhut  People driving way too fast while merging onto a highway, texting or talking on the phone. Seriously? I always slow down and let them jerk into the lane in front of me. Jerk being the most kind operative word I can think of.
September 19 at 14:12 EST .

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   Balogreene  Tho in IL we learned everyone had to work on the merge, the people coming on had to come to speed, the people on the road had to let the mergers in. It sure doesn't work that way in NOVA, it seems to be, I'll go as fast as I can so you can't merge.
October 1 at 19:12 EST .

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   MeiDei  One of our busiest highways near me is being reconfigured to have the exiting drivers now precede those entering - with a good distance between the two (so many accidents ) - as a Blue State the federal funds are available.
October 2 at 11:14 EST .

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   Balogreene  MeiDei, we have a lot of those in VA, and did in IL too. The problem is, people are coming off, then people are coming on, then they have to cross to the exit, or the entrance. It is scary. My car was totaled in the 70's on one of those "exits". Here in VA, I haven't been Impacted, but there are still a lot of accidents.
October 2 at 17:51 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  When I was making plans to move from Richmond, Virginia back to Texas, my cousin [now retired with 30+ years service as a police officer in this city], warned me about Texas Drivers in general, and Lubbock drivers in particular; the rudest, most inconsiderate and worst on the planet.

Even with the warning, I was not prepared for just how bad it is.

Lubbock is one of those cities with a "Loop" around it. A little more than 25+ miles around the city --and is in some circles being called the "inner loop" as it seems the city fathers are planning an outer loop.

Lord save us all!

We have two kinds of drivers in this town: college kids and turn-row farmers, and neither one know what a "commuter highway" is.

I've been back out here now a little over 20 years, and it's been about 19 years and 11 months since I've driven on the loop.

It didn't take me long to realize that the only business anyone has driving the loop is if they have their NASCAR license and a number on the side of their car.

And this is on dry pavement.

You don't want to know what happens in this city when the first flake of snow falls.

Ask me sometime about the Fly-over ramp from the Loop onto I-27.
November 11 at 12:28 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  Bathroom tissue [toilet paper] commercials.

Obnoxious. Beyond offensive.
September 17 at 12:05 EST .

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   Gram77  There is one in particular that I hate and I can't believe no one has objected.
September 22 at 12:24 EST .

  7 people like this.

   MeiDei  This surprised me, I haven't seen a TP ad since the "Squeeze the Charmin" ads years ago. The marketers have inundated us with those Balo mentioned above - what could be next?
October 3 at 09:28 EST .

  7 people like this.

   Straitpath  I would make a plea to men. I haven't noticed this in women, so I will assume it pertains to mostly men. If your wife dies or if you get divorced, please do not remarry quickly and then show public affection to the new spouse in front of anyone who loved the former spouse. Save it for in private. Please do not declare that you have never before been so happy while still on your honeymoon. Be kind and be sensitive.
August 12 at 00:11 EST .

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   Gram77  This makes excellent sense.
August 12 at 11:45 EST .

  15 people like this.

   Linder  Excellent advice that will go unheeded.
August 15 at 05:28 EST .

  15 people like this.

   MeiDei  Boy does this one hit home. A good friend related a similar experience (at their Housewarming - new neighbors, business associates ) by the uninvited arrival of her best friend's then husband with his intended "Next Mrs....." expecting all to be happy for him. Awkward & embarrassing for them & their invited guests. The at home wife (1000 miles away ) with a newborn knew nothing about any pending divorce.
September 15 at 11:33 EST .

  8 people like this.

   Straitpath  Oh my heck!
September 15 at 22:14 EST .

  10 people like this.

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