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   StarFire  My new pet peeve? People who have to give their opinion even when it’s the wrong time, the wrong place, the wrong audience and they aren’t going to do any good by saying it anyway.

My son-in-law has stomach cancer. He, my daughter and the kids are already stressed and actual treatment hasn’t even begun. Boy, the opinions are coming out of the woodwork, though.

So far:
One friend warned that modern medicine is “more deadly than the disease”. One suggested diet changes that are the direct opposite of what he needs. One warned that the VA won’t provide cancer treatment (it will ). One told horror stories about his cancer treatment several decades ago. Several carried on about having lost loved ones to cancer.

I’m beginning to see that my main job in this may be biting my tongue and redirecting the conversation.

The most ironic element is that the “hard hearted” conservative friends are offering real help & practical information, while the “caring” leftists are telling horror stories and spreading fear. Go figure!
Tuesday at 15:42 EST .

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   MeiDei  You're facing what almost all cancer survivors have had to deal with - which is why I warned you to stay away from all the negativity, it's a downer and helps no-one. My survival rate was 20% - so many assigned me to the 80% I wondered how upset they'd be when I did survive ; ) too many. You will all get through this - everyone is different in how they handle chemo - he'll find what works for him. Keep cheerful, keep his spirits up, find humor - eye rolling is a good exercise! God is in control.
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   BirdsNest  Straight Talk. Lousy internet. Lousy phone. Only reason I have it is (1 )
Cant afford anything else (2 ) anything else won't work.
The business on the corner( a stone's throw from me ) has DSL.
Tried it here....dead zone.
August 24 at 08:59 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Have you checked AMAC, all their discounts may help. Unfortunately, I had AARP for life insurance too long to quit, but AMAC came along, and use them for everything else.
Here is there phone deal: investigate,

http://amac.us/club-cellular/
August 30 at 20:31 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  Has anyone ever been asked by a nurse or doctor whether you “use street drugs?”

I’ve had it happen three times.

I’m not a “doctor” person. Some people go to a doctor for every little thing and are religious about yearly health exams. I’m never have been –I’m never sick, except for now.

I decided about 20 years ago that maybe I should be more vigilant, so I got a recommendation for a primary care physician, made an appointment and went. I was in my fifties then, and didn’t take any medication. The nurse was taking my history before I saw the doctor. I had filled out the paperwork in the waiting room, answering all the same questions she was asking about health history.

She seemed astonished that I didn’t take any prescription drugs. After going through a list as long as my arm, to which I answered “no” to, she says, “Well, do you take street drugs?”

I managed to stay seated, and she left the examining room with all of her hair, and no visible lacerations or bruises.

The doctor showed up and “examined” me. I walked out of her office that day with seven -count ‘em, SEVEN prescriptions. Apparently, is you say you have occasional indigestion, it calls for a prescription drug.

I had two of the prescriptions filled, and one of them almost cost me my life.

That was it for doctors until I was diagnosed with lymphoma ten or so years later. Same story with another PC’s nurse: the Street Drug question. I was pretty hateful, and pretty vocal that time.

A little over a year ago I fell –it was a bad fall, and in the emergency room, when I answered “no” to all of the prescription drug questions, the “street drug” question reared its ugly head.

My son covered his face with his hands and whispered, “Oh Dear God! That the wrong question.”

Come to find out, it’s a standard question. The doctor told me that I would be surprised at the number of people my age who use street drugs.
August 12 at 10:30 EST .

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   Gram77  My yearly physical now has this street drug question. Now I ask you, is someone really going to say YES?
August 12 at 14:19 EST .

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   Daisymay  I live in a retirement community where drugs of all kinds are readily dispensed by the ER or the family doctor. I have to admit that I am guilty of having a stash that could give Walgreens a run for it's money! All of us hold on to prescriptions for future use. One reason is that Obama's drug police are getting stingy
about letting doctor's prescribe pain killers. So, we figure so what if the pills are 10 years old, they might still be more powerful than Tylenol if the old back goes out again! However, if the doc asks if I take "Street Drugs" the answer is no!
August 12 at 21:25 EST .

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   GO3  I've never had that question, but I have been asked several times if I had guns in the home by both military and civilian docs or the nurse. I poltely tell them nun ya. A few years ago a questionnaire they hand you every time you go in for an appointment; I mean every time. Questions like, do you feel safe in the home? Have you been deployed? Do you have thoughts of suicide or violence? Now, I can see this when you've just re-deployed, but they gave this to everyone, family members, retirees and at every appointment. Bunch of buttinskies who adopt the latest fad whether the patient fits the profile or not.
August 13 at 04:45 EST .

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   MeiDei  That's awful GO3 - ever tempted to proclaim MYOB?
August 13 at 11:16 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  When it comes to asking about Firearms in the home, a line has been crossed, and I well remember during the run-up to 0bastardCare, being warned by the people trying to stop it, that guns in the home would become a "medical" issue. That has come to pass. The only way to deal with that is to do what GO3 did: tell the doctor that it's none of his danged business. The doctor may be required by law to ask it, but are you required by law to answer yes or no?

The bottom line is, the "government" --that includes both sides of the aisle, would love nothing more than to disarm this nation. It has never been about Common Sense Gun Control, it has always been about Confiscation, and anyone who says otherwise is a danged liar.

Which leads to the question about safety in the home: what happens if someone tells a doctor that he feels unsafe in the home? What are the consequences of answering yes to that --because you can believe there will be consequences. There always is when the government pokes its nose into your personal business.

I suspect the "safety at home" question is tied to the "do you have firearms in the home" question.

As to the "street drug" question, I've finally gotten over being shocked and angered by it. Looking back 20 years when I was first asked the question, I can understand now why it's a necessary question: a doctor really does need to know what he's up against chemically when treating a patient. It's easy enough to do major harm with prescription drugs when a patient is being treated for different ailments by different prescribing doctors: a patient forgets to mention something he's taking, or a doctor isn't familiar with side effects and how certain drugs interact with other drugs.

And Gram asked the best question: If a patient was using street drugs, would he answer truthfully? The consequences could be deadly if he didn't.
August 13 at 11:22 EST .

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   GO3  The street drug question is valid to check for any prescription drug interaction, however, I have to chuckle at the close relationship of docs and big pharma salesmen. I remember many years ago going to the hospital for rehab sessions very early in the AM so to not interrupt my work schedule. The pharma guys were in the hospital parking lot before first light carrying in their milk crates full of brochures and booklets ready for a day of making deals. IMO medicine today can be pretty assembly line. In/out with a bagful of pills, with an admonition of "you'd better not self medicate, buddy." My modus operandi is my self-medicating is in direct proportion to the length of wait to see a doc. And in some cases, it's getting longer and longer.
August 14 at 01:02 EST .

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   Calvinesq  Sorry to be a little late to this thread - been tied up.

Regarding GO3 and the firearms questions from doctors or other healthcare providers, I have read a fairly recent commentary recently in which the writer suggested just saying "no" and letting it go at that. A "none of your business" response will usually be interpreted as an affirmative answer by the doctor or other healthcare provider. You can't be sure what they will end up writing in your file. As much as I detest not telling the truth, I think the question is intrusive (not to mention none of their business ) and can be used down the line by the government to grab your guns. So many files are now on line, and privacy protections don't cut it, in my humble opinion. So, I'm going to use the "no" answer for now on.
August 19 at 10:48 EST .

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   Safetydude  Re: 'Street Drugs'.
I've not been asked that question in those terms.
Years ago my quack asked if I use OTC drugs, which I do, and I told him I use Bayer, Ibuoprofen and Aleve. Bayer almost regularly. Those drugs are on my records and all I'm asked is if I still use them.
When I was in the AF I had the Flight Doc put Bayer on my medical record so if I ever had to do a pi** test and strange chemicals showed up I would be covered. The worst OTC drugs were cold medicines. We were not allowed to self-medicate without going to the Doc and having him ok it.
OTC drugs can react badly with prescribed drugs so your doctor is most likely doing a CYA.
August 21 at 20:29 EST .

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   GO3  IMO experience answering the firearms question with a nun ya puts them on notice to cool it. Normally that question is not asked again by the same doc. On the military side, they eventually stopped asking all together. And if I was in their bad boy database I knew whoever was managing it would eventually leave/PCS and it would be forgotten as most fad PC initiatives end up in file 13 anyway. BTW, Safety, quack is a good term to describe these no bedside manner, buttinsky MDs.
August 23 at 06:28 EST .

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   StormCnter  I hate for strangers to call me by my first name without being invited to do so. Petty? Yes, but it annoys me.
August 12 at 05:51 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  And receptionists at doctor's offices, etc., people I've never laid eyes on on, calling me Hon, or Dear or Sweetie.

I think it's demeaning.
August 12 at 08:50 EST .

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   StormCnter  Years ago, my mother took my grandmother to my mom's doctor for a checkup. They had never met. When the doctor called my grandmother "Mama", she picked up her purse and walked out.
August 12 at 09:33 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  "Younger than you" people often believe they are being respectful when they address you as "Mama," or they are endearing themselves to you when they call you "Hon." I don't know why that is.
August 12 at 09:56 EST .

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   MeiDei  I prefer being addressed as Mrs ___ until I'm comfortable with the person - then 1st name OK. When I taught CCD and only knew the name(s ) of the most "verbal" I called everyone else darlin' 'til I knew their nqmes - no one seemed to mind - wouldn't do so w/an adult. I often go through a register w/the same 2 ladies (cashier & bagger ) - they've taken to calling me "sweet lady" and I call them "my lovelies" - none of which is obvious but it makes us smile and banter.
August 13 at 11:08 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  Insurance commercials: I'm sick to death of the green lizard, Flo and the cartoon General.
August 9 at 14:11 EST .

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   GO3  Agree.
August 9 at 22:12 EST .

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   MeiDei  I don't mind the Geico, it's well done graphically but Progressive bothers me since much of their profits fund HRC and her cohorts.
August 10 at 08:56 EST .

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   Gram77  My hubby hates Flo but tolerates the green lizard. Do you folks know who does the voice of the lizard? I bet all of you do.
August 10 at 22:32 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  If I had to chose one over the other two, I would shoot Flo and the General and keep the lizard.

I don't have a clue about the voice. Tell us, please.
August 11 at 11:04 EST .

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   StormCnter  The voice was Jake Wood for many years, but he's been fired. I don't know who does the little gecko now.
August 12 at 05:48 EST .

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   Gram77  The voice for the little green lizard if Kelsey Grammer.
August 12 at 11:27 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  Really!?! I will pay closer attention to the next commercial!
August 12 at 11:42 EST .

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   GO3  This has been bugging me a long time, and that's calling people who are from the Far East and the Pacific "Asian.". Asia is a continent, not a race, and it's the biggest continent on the planet. As a Caucasian (notice where the Caucasus is on the map ), I could pass as an "Asian," and I have in my travels, and so could many here on this board. So, if you call someone an Asian to describe his/her race, it's meaningless. Along with this, when did the term "oriental" become non-speak? That's my rant for the day.
August 6 at 04:31 EST .

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   MeiDei  Now that you mention it - how about the new "norm" of calling those from the Mideast "Asians" instead of Arabs.
Oriental, Occidental or Accidental - we're in double-speak.
Our family has a few dormant genes that surface once in each generation - high cheekbones & slanting eyes thanks to some long ago raiding parties from the steppes - that introduces Eurasian into the mix ... what a world.
August 6 at 10:14 EST .

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   GO3  My wife and I are both German-Nordic. She's a green eyed blonde and I am olive from a Laplander background. Both of us are darker than many Arabs I have encountered; and I've met a lot of them. Back to the original point, calling someone Asian as it relates to race is like calling me a North American like calling Justice Thomas a North American. It means nothing.
August 6 at 10:31 EST .

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   MeiDei  Maybe Asian refers to a broad area as European refers to all those from countries within Europe vs. as a distinct race. Isn't race black, brown, white, yellow and red? All else would be nationalities, no?
August 6 at 17:14 EST .

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   GO3  My main point is the term Asian is an artificiality because Asia is a broad area with several races and mixes. The current generation doesn't hesitate to call a Japanese person an Asian, but would they do that for an Indian or Afghani? I haven't seen it; maybe you have. BTW, Afghanis are classified as Indo-European. I just think the term at is a typical diversity ploy and a flat out fabrication.
August 6 at 22:21 EST .

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   GO3  Sorry, one more thing. The people who should make sense of all this are the anthropologists. But when the diversity train left the station decades ago, the anthro professional solicitation wrote a lengthy paper in the late 90s essentially punting the entire issue into oblivion. It was kind of like Comey's statement on Hillary's email scandal. It said (paraphrasing ) yes, there are racial divisions and racial blending and this is what the science shows. But it really doesn't make a case to categorize people based on race, so let's just all get along. It gave free rein to promote deceptive terms like "Asian" and a whole host of other nonsense.
August 6 at 23:43 EST .

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   Balogreene  I started using "Asian" about 15 years ago. An Asian of my acquaintance informed me there is no such place as "the Orient".
August 13 at 14:27 EST .

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   Alice  Seriously considering calling Obama our first Thug-American President.

Never knew that Some things become a pet peeve instantly.

This story posted on Lucianne.com last week keeps bugging me like one of those hit songs from the early 1960s which shall not be named so I don't infect anyone else.
http://www.dallasnews.com/news/local-news/20160729-dallas-we
atherman-reportedly-resigns-after-facebook-comment-about-mot
hers-of-slain-thugs-at-democratic-convention.ece


I thought commenting on it at the time would heal the wound ;- ) but nope. So if you see me refer to the Thug in Cheap instead of CIC or Commander in Chief, you will know why.
August 2 at 14:11 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  Thug gets past the "bad words" filter. The things I call him could probably get me a visit from the Secret Service.
August 4 at 11:03 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  I'm beyond sick and tired of hearing that whiney kid telling the 9-1-1 operator that he's home by himself and "someone's messing with the front door . . . "
July 24 at 12:51 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Probably should be on Blessings for good doctors, but I am in a peevish mood. 19 visits in May, Drs, tests and more tests. lost count for dr appt and surgeries in June and here it is the 14th of July with 6 so far and 3 more follow ups scheduled. They clamped DH's jaw so extreme for his carotid surgery, they handed me his broken incisor tooth in a jar, loosened other bottom teeth,can't chew, so add dentist to list. Stoke avoided for him (the Blessing ), me, total stress plus my cataract right eye last Monday, made them knock me out completely. Scotty Beam Me Up.
July 14 at 12:23 EST .

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   Gram77  Good grief, EC! What a mixed blessing. Please keep us posted and how about some prayers coming your way.
July 14 at 18:09 EST .

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   MeiDei  Prayers of peace & joy coming your way EC! You need a vacation.
July 16 at 15:49 EST .

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   Surfhut  Social Justice Warriors. Precious Snowflakes.
July 9 at 10:14 EST .

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