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   BirdsNest  Transferring today to a local nursing home with Hospice Care. The place is the last place I would have chosen, I hate it but there was nothing else available. I plan to be there as much as possible, it is about 12 miles from the house. No more trips across the bridge-tunnel in the wee hours of the morning or late nights. A new place to get used to. I am hoping that friends will come to visit.
January 15 at 06:02 EST .

   MeiDei  Prayers follow you both there trusting it will be a surprisingly positive experience.
January 15 at 10:30 EST .

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   Balogreene  Bird, it is so hard. I know the feeling. I am glad is is a reasonable distance, and you don't have to go across the bridge (tho I don't know which one, I know both are horrible ). Your being there will really help with the care. If they know you are coming they will be more careful.
January 16 at 18:42 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Hagar is being transferred to Hospice House tomorrow. He is done, he said. He cannot deal with the pain any longer.
January 7 at 17:59 EST .

   MeiDei  Consider yourself hugged Bird by all who care, stay strong. His pain will be dealt with & eased; as you said - he's a fighter, what he feels today may change. I pray God will comfort you both & bring you peace.
January 7 at 18:24 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  I don't login much with these antibiotic eyedrops and using a walker to get around, but I MUST tell you again you and J are in our prayers.
January 8 at 17:19 EST .

   Balogreene  He is too young to be done. Tell him we all care, are praying and hugging.
January 16 at 18:44 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Hagar back in the hospital, this time with infections. While I am at the rehab emptying the room, I get a call from the appeals people. No, they did not get my 3 pages of information via FAX. Now I have to get them copies faxed by 11 am tomorrow or the appeal will be dropped. First she said by 9am.

I am riding with someone else and do not know what time the business office at the hospital opens or where else I could go to get papers faxed. I mentioned to her I had a piece of paper with confirmation that the pages were received. This is beginning to get on my last good nerve.

We were in ER from 11pm til 9:30am so I am a bit tired. My Tuesday ride offered to pick me up this evening,allowing me to leave the van here in the parking lot. He will pick me up in the morning and drop me at the hospital, then tomorrow I can leave whenever I want. This way I won't have to drive home today since I have had no sleep.
December 28 at 14:01 EST .

   MeiDei  Keep a log, get names of those who contacted you and who you spoke with, dates, time of day/night. Keep copies of all. Check your policy for re-hab days in any calendar year/quarter - consecutive or total before you pursue further if you haven't already done that. Have dr. run interference, if all else fails contact "elder services" to assist. - OR - - OR -
Good luck, prayers are with you both.
December 29 at 12:52 EST .

   BirdsNest  Second appeal denied. No reason given. I hate ins companies.
January 1 at 10:51 EST .

   BirdsNest  He will be in hospital for a few more days. New PICC line being put in today. Monday a procedure to see if heart valve has infection. If so then a longer regimen of antibiotics will be called for. The Oncology floor of Virginia Beach General has TOP notch staff from RN's to housekeeping. He is in good hands.
January 1 at 10:54 EST .

   MeiDei  How are his wounds & esophagus? Gosh you've both been through so much, manage your stress levels! So glad he's back in good hands sorry for the disappointment with the insurance co.
January 1 at 11:30 EST .

   BirdsNest  Got a phone call....Humana wants Hagar discharged from the rehab facility on the 26th. The discharge planner for the rehab is gone til Monday. I have appealed the decision, but 3 guesses where that will take me. Everyone everywhere in the world of rehab facilities will be off work til Monday. This really blows.
December 24 at 10:06 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  I sympathize, and should go to the peeve wall. My Dr of 22 yrs went MDVIP and transferred our records. The new group won't return my calls. My new Dr needs those for my surgery and DH testosterone shots. He has gone 3 months without and is not doing well. #2 the reason my surgery is off until the 11th is the surgery center can't confirm insurance until the 4 th, she has patients lined up til Feb. Medical care sucks. And Dh just went through Miss last night and is on I 10 for Texas, won't see him until the 10th Bah Humbug
Birdy thanks for the nice email.
December 24 at 12:23 EST .

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   Balogreene  Keep us informed. I hate Insurance deciding what to do, not Dr's. Though I don't trust Dr's either.
December 24 at 23:22 EST .

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   MeiDei  Bird, if Hagar comes home will he have visiting nurses to tend his wound care? My son had a PT for a month or so when he first came home after his accident - is this something Hagar can have? Maybe a few weeks at home would be a good thing - something to check into. Will keep this in prayer.
December 25 at 00:12 EST .

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   BirdsNest  We live in a 1960's mobile home. Tiny rooms. Tiny doorways. Coming home is out of the question.
December 25 at 09:00 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I just faxed a 3 page document to the place that does the appeals. Got notified that Humana's payment for rehab ends tomorrow. We can stay they will not pay. I have asked for a further appeal, rehab tab is on us. I can do nothing til Monday. I am so stressed. Short of pushing him out on the street, I am at a loss. Prayers.
December 25 at 13:36 EST .

   Escaped commieny  ok, take a deep breath. We have dealt with Walter Reed, Syracuse VA, Prostate cancer, mouth cancer and a heart attack with 3 stents, Hagar will be OK. Prayers go out every morning and night.
The Angels are watching over you. EC
December 25 at 14:40 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Thanks EC. Hagar is so sweet, he is worried about me. I look at him and wonder how he got so sick, he looks good and for the most part feels good. The nurse and I changed his wound vac today, I am almost practiced enough to do it myself. They are stunned that a family member will help. He is my responsibility too. I am happy to help, but some of the nurses get miffed when I offer suggestions. I have been dealing with this for 7 months, I have learned a lot. Thanks for telling me the angels are watching over me....
December 25 at 17:52 EST .

   BirdsNest  This was on the Mothership, a post from an LDotter commenting on the article about little Bella coming back to life:

"The doctors reign supreme in the middle of the bell curve of all medical cases. God lives in the margins.
Merry Christmas!"
December 25 at 18:14 EST .

   MeiDei  Happier New Year Bird & Hagar and all who visit here!
December 26 at 14:22 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Thanks, Me I. As if today wasn't already frustrating enough, I got a call from the appeals people wanting to know if it was okay to drop the appeal. Seems "my daughter" called and cancelled the appeal. I told the lady "not only no! but Hell no!" Told her I did not have a daughter and I wasn't cancelling the appeal. I have had the worst day. Right now I am rehab. Got here about an hour ago. Hagar was asleep and wet from sweat. I woke him, he said he felt bad. Got the nurse to take his temp 100.6. Gave him tylenol. Will recheck temp at 5. Glad I left early. For that and because halfway here on the middle of the bridge-tunnel it got seriously foggy.
December 26 at 16:21 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I am curious to know if EC went ahead with cataract surgery. I would be interested to know the results and what one has to do in order to recuperate from it.
December 18 at 06:58 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Have not had it yet, see Dr the 21st, needed antibiotic in the left eye and then apt postponed. I am not worried, DH had it done a few years ago and now has perfect vision, has to he is driver.
The recupe is a bunch of eye drops. Last Christmas we spent in the hospital getting his knee fixed, this year maybe me, but I am not sure he will even make it home, but I have a great cab company. Sorry I haven't posted, it is just too hard to see.
December 18 at 08:41 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Left eye Jan 11th, can't wait.
December 21 at 18:02 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I am interested to know about restrictions on bending over and lifting. I have so many animals that depend on me. Plus driving issues.
December 25 at 13:38 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Don't remember any restrictions on lifting, just a bunch of eye drops in the DH, but my situation is different since I had Lasix in 2000, it complicates stuff. I go Monday for the measurements and what kind of lenses. I am so sick of doctors, I could spit.
My kids better feed them selves but I will still be able to open the door for them to got do their business. I was told I could drive, I am sick of paying for cabs.
December 25 at 14:48 EST .

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   MeiDei  From The Institute for Natural Healing:
5 Nagging Health Problems Solved With Tea

“Tea began as a medicine and grew into a beverage,” said Kakuzo Okakura in his Book of Tea in 1906.

Traditional Chinese medicine practitioners have prescribed herbal and caffeinated teas for thousands of years. And modern research confirms their natural healing power. Unlike pharmaceuticals, tea has few, if any, side effects.

Here are five health problems you can solve with tea:

1. High Blood Pressure: Studies show drinking hibiscus tea for one month can lower systolic blood pressure (top number ) by about 20 points. It may even work better than lisinopril—a common blood pressure medication. That’s in people with mildly to moderately high blood pressure.

Two, 8-ounce servings of organic hibiscus tea a day is all you need.

2. Tension Headaches: Research shows tea can be just as effective as ibuprofen at making headaches disappear. But it works 30 minutes faster…and without the risk of stomach bleeding. The active ingredient? Caffeine.

Headaches are often triggered when the blood vessels in your head enlarge. Caffeine counters this by causing the vessels to constrict.

Organic black teas are your best option for tension headache relief. They have the most caffeine of any tea—up to 90 mg per 8-ounce cup. Depending on your tolerance, you may need anywhere from half a cup to more than two cups for relief. Just don’t overdo it. Too much caffeine can aggravate a budding headache.

3. Allergies: Over-the-counter and prescription allergy meds cause dry mouth, dizziness, and headaches. But stinging nettle tea is a safe, effective natural alternative that treats symptoms without side effects. It works by preventing the release of histamine when you’re having an allergic reaction. This stops symptoms like skin hives and nasal congestion before they start.

For added congestion-fighting benefits, steep organic nettle tea with soothing organic peppermint. You can find blends with both online and in most grocery stores.

4. Stress: An amino acid in green tea called l-theanine induces a sense of calm. Green tea, which has just small amounts of caffeine, is excellent for reducing stress without putting you to sleep. Zen Buddhist monks drink it to remain tranquil yet alert during long meditation sessions.

One study found that people who took 200 mg of l-theanine before taking a test were less anxious. It lowered their heart rate and reduced levels of a stress marker found in the saliva.

Use only organic whole-leaf green tea. Oolong is the variety highest in l-theanine. Steeping leaves for a minute or two extra will ensure you’re getting the most l-theanine you can in each cup. But leave out milk or cream. It lowers l-theanine content.

5. Insomnia: Since the Middle Ages, lemon balm has been a go-to herb to reduce stress and encourage sleep. In one study, insomnia vanished completely for 85% of the people who took a lemon balm extract called Cyracos®. They took 600 mg a day.

You can get the same benefits with lemon balm tea. Enjoy a cup of quality organic whole-leaf lemon balm tea about
December 11 at 17:24 EST .

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   MeiDei  Cont'd: You can get the same benefits with lemon balm tea. Enjoy a cup of quality organic whole-leaf lemon balm tea about an hour before bed. Steep it for 10 minutes or more to get a therapeutic dose.

The calming ritual of sipping warm tea adds to the relaxing effects of this herb.
December 11 at 17:26 EST .

   Balogreene  I'm going to have to try hibiscus tea (I think I have some for colds ). I don't have high-blood pressure, only mildly-high blood pressure.
December 16 at 18:54 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Back to the hospital.....this time he was throwing up all of Sunday night into the next morning. Rehab shipped him off to the hospital. We are changing rehabs, this one has too many bad habits for us to overlook anymore. We will wait to hear from the case mgr what she has to offer. Can't figure out the reason for the vomiting, he was fine yesterday. I got over there late Monday and spent the night. The drive back last evening was long and boring. I was really tired when I finally got to sit in the chair at home. Skipped dinner because I had a big lunch. The food at the hospital in their cafe is not the best I ever ate, but I try to eat something. Whole wheat pancakes are SO OFF my list of things to eat. They were gross. Nothing but a sponge for syrup which I have to use sparingly. Hagar hates the smell of the food they bring to his room. At least it was hot. Anyway, I guess we will hear soon about other rehab facilities. This is a long road we are on.
December 2 at 09:32 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Endoscopy found a small ulcer and irritated esophagus. After he came back from the procedure he was in a good mood. When we got back from lunch, the room was filled with newbies brought by the wound care nurse. They tried to chase me out but Hagar's nurse told me I was just in time for the wound bandage change. It took about 30 minutes.....that's how long it takes to do it properly, something the rehab place needs to work on. I learned a few tricks from the wc nurse, she is very efficient and explained a few things to the noobs. The new people were extremely respectful and one nurse was kept busy adjusting his gown to protect his modesty. Little does she know that after 6 months there's not much left in the way of modesty. The entire nursing profession of the area has seen all parts of him. I got amused at him, audibly in pain while the area was being worked on, he was still in a right mind to ask the nurse holding his on his side to scratch his back. Which 2 of them got right on. Shameless.
December 4 at 08:11 EST .

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   MeiDei  Wound care using the VAC system is for a specialty nurse. He's more than 1/2 way to total healing I hope/trust. Do you think they'll keep him in the hospital a bit longer before transferring to another facility? Hopefully, he'll be able to eat more with his esophagus being treated.
December 4 at 12:51 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Hagar went into the hospital for blood transfusion, they ended up giving him 2 units. The rehab did not let me know he was going over to the hospital til it was too late for me to get there. Anyway, Hagar did not want me to come over. They kept him also Sat night so I got everyone here fed and went over there arriving at around 5:30 and stayed til 4pm today. He was much better when I was about to leave, he started perking up.
November 22 at 19:14 EST .

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   Balogreene  When mom was in rehab she went back to the hospital three times (every time Kaiser charged her $250, altho I love them for other things, that was excessive ). Rehab called us every time. The last times our sister was out to help us, she asked, "how do you sleep with all this going on?" It's tough Bird, mom was having Bowel problems, she was not 2 quarts low. Tell Hagar to keep up those oil changes.
November 22 at 21:39 EST .

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   MeiDei  Hagar is always in our prayers; needing a transfusion is not rare or uncommon 'tho unsettling to hear about - keep positive, you've both been given the strength to see this through - grab it and don't let go!
November 23 at 11:52 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Thanks, Mei
December 4 at 08:11 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Who has had cataract surgery? I spent 4 hours today in tests and need to use some ointment for 3 weeks about a 'flash', apparent blood vein rupture, then if all is well they will schedule surgery. Haven't been able to post with these bad eyes and was hoping for a date today, now have to wait again. Fell 3 times and really got
buggered' up.
November 12 at 15:57 EST .

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   MeiDei  Prayers going your way, stay safe!
November 12 at 17:28 EST .

   NotaBene  About 7 years ago my mother came to visit. We were crossing the street and she held on my arm but did not want to cross the road. I asked what was the problem and she told me she could not see the traffic light. We went home, I talked to my husband about it. We went to our ophthalmologist and he said she was legally blind because of her cataracts. We talked to her and convinced her to have surgery. We took her and she had surgery on one eye. We had to put drops on that eye. One week later we took her again for the surgery on her other eye. She could not believe she could see so well. She had given up reading because of the cataracts, now she could read again. It was a miracle. I am so happy we that that for her. It changed her life. She lived until she was 94 enjoying life, the cataract surgery was a blessing in her life.

EC, go for it, it will change your life.
November 14 at 02:11 EST .

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   Balogreene  My grandmother had the surgery, I think my dad did too. They both came through it well. My mom is 85, and refuses all surgery, but, she is opting for this one after the first of the year. It seems to work wonders.
November 15 at 16:54 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I need to have cataract surgery, but it is low on the totem pole for now. I heard an ad coming home tonight about laser cataract surgery seemingly better than the method being used today.
November 22 at 19:10 EST .

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   MeiDei  I would caution anyone about going the route of whole eye hard contact lenses after surgery - I have a friend who is struggling badly with that method; she has difficulty getting them out and needs assistance. My brother had lens implants during surgery that also corrected his vision. Just do the research of every available method and pick the one best for your lifestyle & abilities ... meaning that if you've never worn hard contact lenses I wouldn't opt for that procedure.
November 23 at 12:20 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Hagar was transitioned to a rehab facility on Thursday. He likes it-1st floor with windows that open, he can feel fresh air and see the grass. The room is newly remodeled and large with a big TV. Wireless internet so when he feels strong enough he can use the tablet(it is really a heavy little thing ). He may never want to come home. Still working on healing those sores but they are better. Maybe soon plastic surgery to cover them....fingers crossed, and prayers please. We still have cancer to worry about. I never capitalize that word because I don't want to make it stand out and feel important. Prayers from all over have been the key to his making it this far. He also has been strong and fighting, he wants his life back. I am doing my best to make it happen, keeping things moving here. Thanks so much for the support I have received from many of you. It is appreciated. It is nice to not feel invisible.
October 19 at 19:14 EST .

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   MeiDei  With the exception of the sun & sometimes the moon - the brightest stars are only visible during the darkest hours.
October 20 at 15:04 EST .

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   NotaBene  Bird, so nice to hear good news. It is good he is feeling better, stronger and ready to fight for his life back. Prayers for a good recovery and that you have him home again in your beautiful garden.
October 21 at 09:33 EST .

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   Balogreene  So good to hear he is doing better. Recovery can be hard and slow, but at least Hagar is a fighter.
October 21 at 18:13 EST .

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   BirdsNest  A fighter he is Balogreene. I am so proud of the progress he has made in spite of everything. It wasn't all him, the nurses and doctor at the Hospital For Extended recovery within Sentara Norfolk General Hospital are exceedingly good at their jobs and a great deal of the credit goes to them. They were the key to him getting out of there.
October 24 at 18:54 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Say up on the side of the bed, feet on the floor, no pain, no dizziness...10 minutes. That was yesterday. Today it was a bit more painful but he managed it. 5 months. Ugh. So many people miss him.
October 31 at 20:09 EST .

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