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   BirdsNest  Dental cleaning yesterday. I don't know why but I hate it. My head hurts from it. I am being whiny today. Tired from all the garden work plus the animals. At least the animals make me smile. Seems all I have been doing is going to doctors. But then I realize I have been neglecting my own health for several years. Hagar's health was paramount for a long time, now I have to make sure I will be okay. Yesterday I had to go to WalMart for a CMR. Comprehensive Medical Review. The pharmacist went over my Rx list (very short ) and explained to me the recommendations of the insurance company. Only one change in medication due to diabetes. And they would like to encourage me to get immunizations...Hep B, flu(NO! ). pneumonia (NO! ) and shingles. Maybe the Hep B because I am testing blood sugar and giving myself needles for insulin.
April 26 at 06:28 EST .



   MeiDei  After hearing from 3 family members about shingles & one who got the shot in time vs. the 2 who didn't - I'm seriously considering the shot. One who was misdiagnosed & too late to get the shot, had over 6 mos. of intense pain & finally had to get a pain management implant - in use for nearly 2 years now.
April 26 at 19:49 EST .




   MeiDei  This link came to me today via email ... I also checked out some of the side bar offerings - interesting. http://www.thealternativedaily.com/benefits-of-lemon-water-a
nd-salt/?utm_source=external&utm_medium=MG&utm_campaign=irol

lie Lemons are out of season here in the NE & Himalayan Salt isn't stocked in your every day grocery store but can be found in vitamin stores & catalogs.
March 31 at 11:08 EST .




   BirdsNest  Had the colonoscopy. Actually I had 2 of them. One Monday then a repeat on Tuesday. Seems the gallon of liquid I drank did not clean me out enough. So continued the liquid diet gor another day. My blood sugar was hard to control. I legt home it was 163 by thetime we were at the second tunnel on CBBT, it had fallen to 72. I was early for the appointment so they took me back and checked my blood sugar. By this time it was 61. They hooked me up to an IV and things levelled out. It eas over with and results are....repeat procedure 10 yrs. Phew. One hurdle.
March 22 at 08:12 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I have to go for a scan on Wednesday. Not sure what to expect, but the doctor wanted to take a look. So if anyone has a spare prayer or three, I would appreciate them.
March 26 at 00:08 EST .

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   MeiDei  Consider it done, daily - good luck!
March 28 at 06:42 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Results of the scan are back but now I have to see a doctor. Still not sure exactly what it means but I will find out Tuesday. To say I am worried, yes I am. I refused any offer of someone to go with me.
April 4 at 06:53 EST .


   MeiDei  How about we accompany you in spirit Tuesday, prayerfully!
April 4 at 23:56 EST .


   BirdsNest  Thanks, Mei. The trip over was not much fun with the wind and it trying to snow, and the traffic there just makes me nuts. I had a hard time getting directions to where I needed to go. They just weren't clear so I went to another forum and private messaged a lady I knew lived there in Virginia Beach. She was able to give me concise directions and I was so thankful for that. Once the appointment was over I came straight home. Trader Joe's and The Fresh Market will just have to wait til next time.
April 6 at 08:27 EST .


   MeiDei  And the news - not as bad as you feared? Don't feel as if you have to answer that here, just me wondering prayerfully.
April 6 at 13:03 EST .


   BirdsNest  Well, part of the mystery was answered, now we have to have another scan. So the one scary thing was reduced down to a maybe, and the scan will hopefully answer whatever other questions the doc has. (I do not like doctors, my BP goes high, and I have to hear "do you have high blood pressure? )I am a very simple person that does not like high volumes of traffic and sketchy directions. Plus I have been through the bowels of stress for the past year and a half with the last 8.5 months a pressure cooker.
April 6 at 16:40 EST .

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   MeiDei  I'm due this month for a few scans & various tests - not fun. If they put me on the treadmill they'd better have the paddles ready.
April 6 at 18:50 EST .


   MeiDei  There's little you cannot face Bird - after what you've been through - you're strong & flexible. I'd liken you to the Energizer Bunny but I don't want BillyJefferson seeking you out to peek under your feathers &/or confusing his security detail. : )
April 7 at 19:22 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Read an article today on Mercola.com about stress. I am in deep trouble with the stress I have been under. Trying to decompress. It's hard.
April 10 at 09:27 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Life goes on. Tuesday afternoon I fell asleep in the chair while reading and was awakened by the sound of Hagar's voice. It surprised me he wasn't here. I know I can expect lots of nudges from him. I had 9 months to get used to him not being in the house, but it is difficult not seeing him anywhere. Sometimes I can't get to sleep right away, thinking about everything he went through. But I am alright, I am tough. Had a doctors appt Tuesday just to get back to taking care of myself. We are adjusting my insulin. The A1-C was awful but I knew it would be. My BP was high at first but she rechecked it and it was fine. I explained I have been one big load of stress for over 9 months, likely a year. Blood work. Referral for a colonoscopy. Joy. Hagar called that "the rubber hose treatment".
February 25 at 10:59 EST .

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   Phooey  We love you Birdy !
February 25 at 16:16 EST .

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   Balogreene  18 years after daddy died, he sometimes still puts a hand on moms shoulder while she sits in her chair, and sometimes hugs her in bed. Hagar will always be with you, and with us, who shared his life.
February 28 at 20:50 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I hope he is always with me. I have been having a hard time getting to sleep in the bed. I can fall asleep in the chair, no problem. I figured it out....I always had my hand on his back when I went to sleep. It was my pacifier, my safety net. I miss it.
March 6 at 17:21 EST .

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   MeiDei  We military wives, when our husbands were away for 9-12 months, found ourselves able to fall asleep by switching to their side of the bed. Maybe an extra pillow or two on his side - 'wearing' a favorite shirt of his, might help for a while. Sleep is important.
March 9 at 09:22 EST .

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   Balogreene  I think the smell of them helps too. When daddy died, I kept several of his suit coats. They wrapped me in his essence, and his smell.

I hate to be so stupid, but, someone's husband died, and someone else here made blankies out of his shirts for the kids. I really think this is such a good idea. We need them near us, for a kinda long time.
March 10 at 21:18 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I am able to fall asleep after about an hour of lying in bed with my eyes wide open. I have slept so many nights in a chair that the bed feels foreign. And I get cold easily, when Hagar was beside me he was my heater. I really miss so many things about him.
March 23 at 00:15 EST .




   Escaped commieny  Birdy, we need an update on Hagar
February 15 at 04:15 EST .

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   BirdsNest  My heart is shattered into a million pieces, Hagar lost his war on cancer late Tuesday afternoon. I watched the light in his eyes go dark, I have never felt so helpless in my life. I am at peace knowing he is no longer suffering. I am just not sure now what I am to do with myself. Thank all of you for your kind words and thoughts and many of you that helped me out in some way. I am feeling rather empty, don't know if that will go away. I am sorry that you all could not know the man that he was, the witty charming intelligent man that I called my best friend and the love of my life. I am very sad.
February 17 at 00:23 EST .

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   MeiDei  I can only share your sadness and wish you comfort. Let every loving memory glue your shattered heart back together, filling the void & kept safely with you always. With friendship & sympathy.
February 17 at 02:39 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Love you Candy, so sorry for your loss, Linda prayers were sent every day and night, the Lord wanted him now
February 17 at 06:09 EST .

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   HopeandGlory  Oh Birdy, I'm so very sorry that you and Hagar had to go thru' this terrible pain. Praying here that the Lord will ease your pain and emptiness. God be with you.
February 17 at 07:37 EST .

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   StormCnter  Birdy, I am so very very sorry. There never are words to help at a terrible time such as this, but please know you are surrounded by loving, caring friends who offer anything you may need. God is with you, His arms are around you and angels are seeing your sweet husband to his home.
February 17 at 10:47 EST .

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   Linder  So sorry for your loss. Your tribute to Hagar was so sweet and we did somewhat get to know him and you through these pages. Will be with you in thought.
February 17 at 12:48 EST .

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   Gerty  Birdy, I am praying for you--that you get the strength to hold up. I am praying for the soul of Hagar---that he may be granted peace in the arms of Our Lord.

You have my e-mail address. Please use it at any time---I am here for you!
February 17 at 17:27 EST .

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   Iacta alea est  Birdy, allow me to add my prayers and condolences.
February 17 at 18:05 EST .

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   FlatCityGirl  I'm so sorry for your loss, and pray God will lay his hand on you and give you peace while you find your way in the world without your loved one.
February 17 at 18:09 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Gerty, please email me,EC, I only have one eye working
February 18 at 07:39 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Transferring today to a local nursing home with Hospice Care. The place is the last place I would have chosen, I hate it but there was nothing else available. I plan to be there as much as possible, it is about 12 miles from the house. No more trips across the bridge-tunnel in the wee hours of the morning or late nights. A new place to get used to. I am hoping that friends will come to visit.
January 15 at 06:02 EST .

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   MeiDei  Prayers follow you both there trusting it will be a surprisingly positive experience.
January 15 at 10:30 EST .

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   Balogreene  Bird, it is so hard. I know the feeling. I am glad is is a reasonable distance, and you don't have to go across the bridge (tho I don't know which one, I know both are horrible ). Your being there will really help with the care. If they know you are coming they will be more careful.
January 16 at 18:42 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I want to speak about the nursing home. I went in with no expectations. I came out of this ordeal with much respect for the entire staff. Everyone was friendly, happy, efficient. His nurses were caring and kind. The CNA's were so good to both of us, never failing to ask if I needed anything. They weren't there to cater to me, but they always offered to get me anything I needed.There policy was no family could sleep over. I told them upfront I was not leaving him at night. Period. That is when they are short staffed and that is when the worst things happen. I stayed all but 2 nights(bad storms with super cold temps and wind ) and I slept in the chair. I was awake whenever anyone came in and I helped the CNA's clean him up. No one even thought to tell me I couldn't be there.
February 21 at 08:27 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Hagar is being transferred to Hospice House tomorrow. He is done, he said. He cannot deal with the pain any longer.
January 7 at 17:59 EST .

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   MeiDei  Consider yourself hugged Bird by all who care, stay strong. His pain will be dealt with & eased; as you said - he's a fighter, what he feels today may change. I pray God will comfort you both & bring you peace.
January 7 at 18:24 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  I don't login much with these antibiotic eyedrops and using a walker to get around, but I MUST tell you again you and J are in our prayers.
January 8 at 17:19 EST .

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   Balogreene  He is too young to be done. Tell him we all care, are praying and hugging.
January 16 at 18:44 EST .

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   BirdsNest  This place really disappointed us. Hagar felt so safe there and we were told he could stay there 90 days. After 5 days the doctor said he had to be discharged. Hagar was so upset. I think that's when he really gave up. No where to go. I was rushed into accepting the nursing home here because I was told there was nowhere else that would take him. I had felt all along that the discharge people will lie to you. So I was pressured into saying yes.
February 21 at 08:31 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Hagar back in the hospital, this time with infections. While I am at the rehab emptying the room, I get a call from the appeals people. No, they did not get my 3 pages of information via FAX. Now I have to get them copies faxed by 11 am tomorrow or the appeal will be dropped. First she said by 9am.

I am riding with someone else and do not know what time the business office at the hospital opens or where else I could go to get papers faxed. I mentioned to her I had a piece of paper with confirmation that the pages were received. This is beginning to get on my last good nerve.

We were in ER from 11pm til 9:30am so I am a bit tired. My Tuesday ride offered to pick me up this evening,allowing me to leave the van here in the parking lot. He will pick me up in the morning and drop me at the hospital, then tomorrow I can leave whenever I want. This way I won't have to drive home today since I have had no sleep.
December 28 at 14:01 EST .

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   MeiDei  Keep a log, get names of those who contacted you and who you spoke with, dates, time of day/night. Keep copies of all. Check your policy for re-hab days in any calendar year/quarter - consecutive or total before you pursue further if you haven't already done that. Have dr. run interference, if all else fails contact "elder services" to assist. http://www.elderhelpers.org/index2.php - OR - https://www.ssseva.org/ - OR - http://www.vaaaa.org/agencies/
Good luck, prayers are with you both.
December 29 at 12:52 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Second appeal denied. No reason given. I hate ins companies.
January 1 at 10:51 EST .

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   BirdsNest  He will be in hospital for a few more days. New PICC line being put in today. Monday a procedure to see if heart valve has infection. If so then a longer regimen of antibiotics will be called for. The Oncology floor of Virginia Beach General has TOP notch staff from RN's to housekeeping. He is in good hands.
January 1 at 10:54 EST .

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   MeiDei  How are his wounds & esophagus? Gosh you've both been through so much, manage your stress levels! So glad he's back in good hands sorry for the disappointment with the insurance co.
January 1 at 11:30 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Got a phone call....Humana wants Hagar discharged from the rehab facility on the 26th. The discharge planner for the rehab is gone til Monday. I have appealed the decision, but 3 guesses where that will take me. Everyone everywhere in the world of rehab facilities will be off work til Monday. This really blows.
December 24 at 10:06 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  I sympathize, and should go to the peeve wall. My Dr of 22 yrs went MDVIP and transferred our records. The new group won't return my calls. My new Dr needs those for my surgery and DH testosterone shots. He has gone 3 months without and is not doing well. #2 the reason my surgery is off until the 11th is the surgery center can't confirm insurance until the 4 th, she has patients lined up til Feb. Medical care sucks. And Dh just went through Miss last night and is on I 10 for Texas, won't see him until the 10th Bah Humbug
Birdy thanks for the nice email.
December 24 at 12:23 EST .

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   Balogreene  Keep us informed. I hate Insurance deciding what to do, not Dr's. Though I don't trust Dr's either.
December 24 at 23:22 EST .

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   MeiDei  Bird, if Hagar comes home will he have visiting nurses to tend his wound care? My son had a PT for a month or so when he first came home after his accident - is this something Hagar can have? Maybe a few weeks at home would be a good thing - something to check into. Will keep this in prayer.
December 25 at 00:12 EST .

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   BirdsNest  We live in a 1960's mobile home. Tiny rooms. Tiny doorways. Coming home is out of the question.
December 25 at 09:00 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I just faxed a 3 page document to the place that does the appeals. Got notified that Humana's payment for rehab ends tomorrow. We can stay they will not pay. I have asked for a further appeal, rehab tab is on us. I can do nothing til Monday. I am so stressed. Short of pushing him out on the street, I am at a loss. Prayers.
December 25 at 13:36 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  ok, take a deep breath. We have dealt with Walter Reed, Syracuse VA, Prostate cancer, mouth cancer and a heart attack with 3 stents, Hagar will be OK. Prayers go out every morning and night.
The Angels are watching over you. EC
December 25 at 14:40 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Thanks EC. Hagar is so sweet, he is worried about me. I look at him and wonder how he got so sick, he looks good and for the most part feels good. The nurse and I changed his wound vac today, I am almost practiced enough to do it myself. They are stunned that a family member will help. He is my responsibility too. I am happy to help, but some of the nurses get miffed when I offer suggestions. I have been dealing with this for 7 months, I have learned a lot. Thanks for telling me the angels are watching over me....
December 25 at 17:52 EST .

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   BirdsNest  This was on the Mothership, a post from an LDotter commenting on the article about little Bella coming back to life:

"The doctors reign supreme in the middle of the bell curve of all medical cases. God lives in the margins.
Merry Christmas!"
December 25 at 18:14 EST .

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   MeiDei  Happier New Year Bird & Hagar and all who visit here!
December 26 at 14:22 EST .

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   BirdsNest  Thanks, Me I. As if today wasn't already frustrating enough, I got a call from the appeals people wanting to know if it was okay to drop the appeal. Seems "my daughter" called and cancelled the appeal. I told the lady "not only no! but Hell no!" Told her I did not have a daughter and I wasn't cancelling the appeal. I have had the worst day. Right now I am rehab. Got here about an hour ago. Hagar was asleep and wet from sweat. I woke him, he said he felt bad. Got the nurse to take his temp 100.6. Gave him tylenol. Will recheck temp at 5. Glad I left early. For that and because halfway here on the middle of the bridge-tunnel it got seriously foggy.
December 26 at 16:21 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I am curious to know if EC went ahead with cataract surgery. I would be interested to know the results and what one has to do in order to recuperate from it.
December 18 at 06:58 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Have not had it yet, see Dr the 21st, needed antibiotic in the left eye and then apt postponed. I am not worried, DH had it done a few years ago and now has perfect vision, has to he is driver.
The recupe is a bunch of eye drops. Last Christmas we spent in the hospital getting his knee fixed, this year maybe me, but I am not sure he will even make it home, but I have a great cab company. Sorry I haven't posted, it is just too hard to see.
December 18 at 08:41 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Left eye Jan 11th, can't wait.
December 21 at 18:02 EST .

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   BirdsNest  I am interested to know about restrictions on activities...like bending over and lifting. I have so many animals that depend on me. Plus driving issues.
December 25 at 13:38 EST .

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   Escaped commieny  Don't remember any restrictions on lifting, just a bunch of eye drops in the DH, but my situation is different since I had Lasix in 2000, it complicates stuff. I go Monday for the measurements and what kind of lenses. I am so sick of doctors, I could spit.
My kids better feed them selves but I will still be able to open the door for them to got do their business. I was told I could drive, I am sick of paying for cabs.
December 25 at 14:48 EST .

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